10 Ways To Love Another

After the last few days of glorious sunshine and the beautiful Royal Wedding my heart has been moved to write in this month’s newsletter about love.

Love is one of the most important aspects of anyone’s life but it is not always easy to create a perfect relationship. But then what is perfect….because there is no such thing. Every relationship will be different but to feel love and receive love is the most precious creation on earth.

Here are a few suggestions to create an amazing relationship:

10 Ways You Can Love Another

1. Start by loving yourself
This is not being selfish. If you are unable to love yourself you are unable to love someone else. This is something many people have trouble with. They might respect themselves, think they’re absolutely amazing, but loving themselves, that’s a bit selfish. No it’s not; it’s the basis of life and the basis of a balanced personality. Loving yourself makes you feel secure with Who you are. You learn to also accept yourself just as you are.

2. Tell others you love them – No one can read anyones mind!
So often people expect others to know they love them but they need to say it and mean it. This means saying those three words out loud so your partner completely understands and is in no doubt about it. You love them. They need you to volunteer it, not say it in reply to a questioning.
One of the things not to say is, “You know I do.” If they did they wouldn’t need to ask! This doesn’t just apply to partners – this also applies to your children, friends and family members.

3. Just love them for themselves
Men and women all have qualities we love in each other, perhaps they’re smart, or sexy, or inspirational, or funny, or even rich. This is not why you love them; you love them just because of who they are… nothing else. Your love should not be conditional; it is not based on any special qualities. It just is…. Even though you celebrate everything that they are, even though you may worship each other, they need to know that you simply love them, no matter what. This is so important.

4. Live in your power
Whilst ‘in love’ is an emotional being he/she must not stop being the man or women they are. Your love should come from the power inside yourself, from your very soul. The love must be part of your power. You should remain just who you are, you must be the person they first met and fell in love with. Yes people change but respect the change. You also don’t need to be in a romantic relationship to make yourself complete. You are complete …just as you are. A relationship may enhance your life but never be in a relationship just for the sake of having someone in your life. As Dr Wayne Dwyer says beautifully “If you like the person you are alone with…you will never be lonely.”

5. Don’t live in the past
Life does not always treat us well and we certainly don’t always treat life well. Things go wrong and we mess up all the time. Strife in our loving relationship is something to let go of once it’s over, it’s something to let slip into the past. We must learn the lessons and move on ensuring that we don’t go there again. But we must never dwell on the past and use it to either beat ourselves up or to judge our partner. Move on and live, always, in the present.

6. Get to know each other
How often do you hear men say, “My wife doesn’t understand me?” What they really mean is, “I don’t understand my wife.” Love can only grow and deepen through understanding. You can never get to the point where you think you know everything about someone, no man or woman is that simple. Everyone is a complex person that even they don’t understand sometimes! We all have moods, up’s and down’s, high’s and lows so life affects people sometimes more than we realize. Getting to know someone takes time, patience and total commitment for a true understanding. Please never judge anyone as every one has a reason for being who they are.

7. Count your blessings
That means the blessings you have together, the things you have achieved together, all that you are as a couple. This should be a regular part of your life together. While I said, above, don’t live in the past, it’s ok to recount the great things in the past; the happy memories. But you also need to learn from the mistakes. Life is a balance so there will be both. That’s normal. Count the blessing of the friends you have, the children you may have, because each person will be a blessing and bring much joy. Sometimes heartache too but each person in your life is special. They are in your life for a reason and you both learn so much from each other.

8. Give love, always
Love is about giving rather than receiving. Love is a creative force that grows out of the desire to give more than you receive. Yes, it is crucial that you are able to receive the love that is offered to you otherwise it quickly dies, but you have to focus on the contribution you make to each other. ‘Give and you shall receive’, but give without expecting anything in return.

9. We are different
Men are focused and directed and can easily lose themselves in what they are doing. This is one of the qualities that many women love in their men, but not to the exclusion of them. Men need to find a balance that shows how important their women are to them without losing their passion for their mission. On the other hand women liked to be listened too. They don’t always need their problems solving as just sometimes expressing how they feel is enough. Listening is an art which is so important to learn. To really hear someone makes the other person feel special – for men and women. Men sometimes like to solve their problems on their own and go back to their caves. Women on the other hand like to share and chat and sometimes women need women in these circumstances more than a man.

10. Start a fresh each day
Refreshing of your love will keep it alive and bring you closer to each other. Through this your love will deepen and become an essential part of everyday you spend together. Sometimes a spontaneous gesture brings life back to the relationship because every day can become the same if we are not careful. So what is love… really? Love is often so hard to put into words. It’s an overwhelming emotion you have about another person, an emotion that you can’t truly explain but you can’t sometimes live without. It makes you want to be with that person, hold them, touch them, have sex with them if they are your partner. It shows itself as an exchange of energy, a polarity, that excites your soul. Love makes you feel great and totally transforms life. Love is worship of the other person, the person who is divine for you. Love is the power house behind our lives, it is the reason we live. Love is what life is all about. To love another and be loved is a priceless gift. And to love yourself is also a priceless gift as you share your happiness with others.

Pearls of Wisdom:
As a rose can’t live without the rain, so a heart can’t love without the risk of pain
Author unknown

…the soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears
Part of a Native American saying

There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as if everything is…
Albert Einstein

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Last word:

I was really moved and loved every moment of the Royal Wedding and I hope that this brings an inspiring uplift into the world. I know it brought so many people from across the Globe together where laughter and fun created so much joy and happiness. Let’s all rejoice in the love we all have with each other.

Until next time
Enjoy your journey

Sheila

Sheila Steptoe

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